Expert Advice
E. Jean Carroll, Elle magazine columnist: If you're going to have a big church wedding, invite everybody to the reception. Just don't spend a lot of money on the reception. If it's a matter of five or ten guests at the reception, it's just not worth [excluding anyone].

Harriette Cole, syndicated columnist: You can have two receptions. At the church you can have a reception with cake and punch and your receiving line. Every single guest is there and everyone is happy. You can have a smaller reception later on with less people. If family members are in question, you have to invite them. Marriage is a union of families.

Ceri Marsh, etiquette columnist: You may not be close [to certain family members] now, but think about how you'll feel five years from now. Invite them all.