Q: A friend attended my wedding and did not give a gift. She said a few months later that she was trying to decide what to get. I just received her wedding invitation, and I'm wondering, do I buy her a gift?
A: Go for the gift. If this is stinginess on her part, she may learn from your example. If it's procrastination, she may be embarrassed into action. If it's well-meaning indecision, she may snap to. Whichever it is, you keep your friendship intact.
— Rushworth M. Kidder, founder of the Institute for Global Ethics
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