Once Thomas was legally considered a man in the state of Oregon, he and Nancy said "I do." After a few years of marriage, they decided to start a family.
Nancy, the mother of two grown daughters from a previous marriage, says the effects of endometriosis left her unable to have more children. "[Doctors] removed my womb," she says. After investigating their options, the couple decided to use anonymous donor sperm.
First, they had to find a physician who would agree to treat Thomas. "We've had a really hard time finding doctors to treat us and to help us get pregnant," he says. "We got rejected by our first doctor because he said that his staff felt uncomfortable working with someone like me."
The couple saw numerous doctors before they found one who agreed to perform the artificial insemination. During the summer of 2007, Thomas discovered he was pregnant for the first time. Sadly, the fertilized eggs grew outside the uterus in his fallopian tube—known as an ectopic pregnancy—and he had to have emergency surgery to remove the embryos. "That was a pretty devastating time," Thomas says.