1975
Charles always working.

1976
Charles still always working.

1977
Paula now de facto single parent, constantly exhausted, nerves frayed, temper short. Considers leaving Charles. Friends encourage her to open up to him; she struggles but follows through. "I learned that sometimes I had to put up my hand and say, 'Hey, I need help.'" Charles, stunned, vows to shoulder his share. Couple adopts full-disclosure/open-forum/ask-and-ye-shall-receive policy. Paula: "Asking for what we needed took practice—but it made us stronger people in a stronger marriage."

1978
Diagnosis: Marriage needs more fun. Charles buys hot rod. "A Corvette with white racing stripes down the side. I drove it for years."

1980
Thirteen-year-old David embraces Judaism. Charles and Paula pleased. Charles: "I didn't know it, but the rabbi taught David the Friday night service. We went to watch, and David was flawless—it brought tears to my eyes. Paula and I held hands the entire time."

1984
20th wedding anniversary.

1984
Paula's mother is stricken with cancer of the esophagus and stomach. Charles's timely diagnosis prolongs her life. (She will live comfortably until 1991.)


Charles moves the family again, this time to Kentucky; David studies law