The Theory Behind Imago
Your Imago, which is a Latin term for 'image,' is essentially a composite picture of the people who most influenced you at an early age. Dr. Hendrix believes that you unconsciously choose a partner, an 'imago match,' who has positive and negative traits similar to your parents. You believe that this partner can help you heal unresolved pain from childhood.
What is Imago Relationship Therapy?
Imago Relationship Therapy is a form of couple counseling that suggests that your marriage is therapy—you become healed not by a counselor but by the relationship itself. Unresolved childhood pain such as abandonment, rejection, smothering, shame and helplessness often resurface in your marriage, which is the core of what is causing the pain and conflict in your relationship. The partner you chose, your 'imago match,' is often the best person to help you heal because he or she is similar to your childhood caretakers in emotionally significant ways.