Jo Frost, ABC's Supernanny and author of Supernanny: How to Get the Best from Your Children, says children need to learn there are consequences for their bad behavior. And parents need to remain calm, take control and be firm when they discipline their children.
Instead of sending children to an area filled with toys for their "time outs," Jo says introduce your children to the "naughty stool"—a mat, chair or rug will do, too!
Step One: Give a Warning
When you see inappropriate behavior, give your children a warning in a low, authoritative voice. Tell them to stop the behavior that's not acceptable or else they will have to go to their "naughty stools."
Step Two: Send Them to Their "Naughty Stools"
If they don't listen to your warning, place them on their "naughty stools."
Step Three: Explain Why
Once they are on their "naughty stools," come down to their level, establish eye contact and say to them in an authoritative tone, "I asked you to do something and you didn't listen to me. I want you to stay here until I come and get you."
Step Four: Start the Clock
Leave your children on their "naughty stools" for one minute for every year they are old. (A three-year old would stay on her "naughty stool" for three minutes.)
Step Five: Ignore Attempts for Attention
If your child screams or cries, don't give in! Don't look at your child—that only rewards their negative behavior. If your child comes off his "naughty stool," calmly, and firmly, put him back on it.
Final Step: Your Child Apologizes
When your child's time is up, explain again why he had to stay on his "naughty stool" and ask for an apology. Only when you get the apology may he leave the "naughty stool."