Is your marriage boring? Are you contemplating an affair? Rabbi Shmuley says these are common thoughts among many Americans who live in a society where consumerism is king. "We human beings seem to live in perpetual longing for those things which are not good for us or are impossible to obtain," Rabbi Shmuley says.
Many who cheat on their spouses say it's the forbidden nature of an affair they find alluring, Rabbi Shmuley says. He says the mystique of the forbidden can also be created in your own marriage. "It's the mental anticipation that makes the forbidden so incredibility satisfying because you've waited and you've planned and you've pinned and you've longed and you've lusted," he says. Rabbi Shmuley shares ideas he says you can use to bring the forbidden into your own marriage:
"The reason we always seek out the forbidden is because of its overpowering ability to make us do things that we thought we were incapable of doing. All too often, married relationships become so legal, so predictable, so routine that they have nothing left to offer us. A healthy injection, therefore, of the forbidden—a healthy introduction of that which would seem a little crazy—is sometimes just what the doctor ordered."
Published on July 30, 2008