Dr. Pollack says that the "code" that goes along with being a boy includes traits such as being macho and never weak. Instead of repressing his sad feelings, though, you can encourage your son to express his emotions in a healthy way.

• Give your son time for undivided attention and listening space.
• Don't prematurely push him to be independent.
• Let him know that "real" boys and men do cry and speak.
• Express your love as openly as you would to a girl.