No woman wears 4-inch stilettos, rib-crushing body slimmers and impossibly short skirts without an end goal in mind. For some, the goal is mind-blowing sex. But—according to researchers—most women are searching for something less tangible.
In January 2009, The New York Times Magazine ran an article that caught Oprah's attention. "What Do Women Want?" explored female sexual arousal...and the findings raised some eyebrows. In the article, female sex therapist Dr. Marta Meana claims that when it comes to sex, what women really want is to be wanted. "Being desired is the real orgasm," she says.
Watch real women discuss what they want from a man.
Dr. Meana, a professor of psychology at the University of Nevada at Las Vegas has been studying women and sexual desire for 20 years. She says that while moments of pleasure are great, it's the anticipation and buildup to those moments that really excite women.
"I'm not knocking orgasms," she says. "But being desired is extremely arousing for women. The reason for that is that being desired means that a man doesn't just want to have sex. He wants to have sex with you."