What's the real story on midlife sex?
Sex isn't the same at 50 as it is at 20—but neither is anything else. We're finally going public with the fact that men go through a midlife transition, too, characterized by change of body shape, loss of muscle tone, and reduced sex drive. They may need help achieving erections, and they may lose erections halfway through intercourse. Don't take it personally. Mad, passionate love will come and go at this age, but you can still have fun. If you've stayed close and connected with each other, it's a lot easier. If the spark is absolutely dead, though, I think you know it. Give the sexual relationship a decent burial, and try to enjoy yourselves as partners. —Sue Johanson, RN