No family should be without a chores list, Rabbi Shmuley says. If parents are just establishing responsibilities, they may want to pick out age-appropriate tasks for each child. As months go on and kids get into the groove of their responsibilities, they can pick new chores or shift chores with their siblings, he says. "The chores list has to be posted where everyone can see it—the kitchen is where we keep ours."

Some household duties should be required of all children, including cleaning up after dinner and keeping their rooms clean.