Rabbi Shmuley shares strategies for parents to help their children grow into strong, spirited young adults:
- Do not lie to your children. Lying will only cause children to distrust their parents, Rabbi Shmuley says. This doesn't mean parents need to tell the whole truth or all the gory details of a situation; rather, they should use their better judgment and find the silver lining. "You tell the truth amid the context of hopefulness," he says.
- Convey the message that goodness always wins. Rabbi Shmuley tells his children that life is full of ups and downs, hills and valleys—but that light always follows darkness. "You must convey to them amidst these depressing, sad and unnerving stories that life in the end always triumphs," he says.
- Help your children confront their fears. Most of the things children fear, such as the dark, monsters or even something like war, are largely irrational, Rabbi Shmuley says. Talk with children about the things that scare or upset them, Rabbi Shmuley says. "Teach them to be cautious but not fearful," he says.
"Optimistic parents raise resilient children, but pessimistic parents raise broken offspring. Wherever there is darkness, show your children the light."