No one ever said raising children was easy, but in today's world, having children can sometimes be overwhelming. As technology, video games and TV decentralize the family, parents juggle demanding work responsibilities and children grow up faster than ever before, parents face increasing difficulty in raising children, Rabbi Shmuley says. He shares advice for parents on how to react when they feel powerless.
Don't feel guilty. You're not a bad person, Rabbi Shmuley says. Of course you love your children—you're just frustrated.
Understand that you need help. Call a family meeting and identify the problems. Take control and begin to make it better. If need be, bring in a family counselor, Rabbi Shmuley says.
Talk to your children. Share with them that a properly running family is everyone's responsibility, Rabbi Shmuley says. "You can't do this on your own," he says. "You need their cooperation."
"We all love our children, but that doesn't mean that we always like our children. When you feel, at times, alienated from your kids, it doesn't mean that you're a bad person, so don't feel guilty. Rather, move toward taking control of an out-of-control situation so that your experience as a parent becomes a pleasant one that is a blessing."
Printed from Oprah.com on Thursday, December 5, 2013