It's easy in today's fast-paced world to get caught up in the frenzy and parent without really
thinking. Rabbi Shmuley says it's important to slow down, make a conscious effort and focus when raising your children. He discusses five important areas all parents must concentrate on when parenting.
The PLANT Parenting Method:
- Protection: Preserve and protect your child's innocence, Rabbi Shmuley says. "You shouldn't swear in front your children, [and] you should protect your child from the belief that life is going to harm them or hurt them," he says.
- Love: Give your child unconditional love and make him feel special. "When you give your children love without them having to earn it, then they feel that there is something about them which is precious; they don't have to prove themselves in life," he says.
- Activity: Don't hold back your child's natural spontaneity or limitless energy. "Real parenting is not suppressing and punishing [children for their energy]—real parenting is finding a better outlet for that energy," he says. "Give them consuming activities that absorb those excess energies."
- Novelty: Teach your children to look at life as something new everyday. "Take them out into nature and get them to appreciate the beauty of a flower, the sublimity of a mountain peak [and] the innocence of the white driven snow," he says. "Let them be impressed by the mystery and grandeur of life."
- Tradition: Connect them with something that is larger than themselves. "It could be your religious tradition … [or] expose them to the great patriots who built this country … [just] connect them to a tradition," he says.
"The father is the sun, the mother is the moon and the light they mutually shed on their kids makes them bright stars against a very dark night."