The idea to write letters every day originated with Alton after they attended a Marriage Encounter® weekend—a program that teaches couples how to make good marriages better by improving communication. "We had written love letters spasmodically for several months," Alton says. "But I could tell from the love letters that it wasn't getting everything across I had seen in the couple that had taught us."
Their communication broke down after they lost a child and Patricia says she even considered leaving Alton. "When we talked, I cried … and he didn't like to see me cry. And so, he didn't want to talk about it. And I took his not talking about it as he didn't care," Patricia says. "It was about that time we started writing our letters, and it pulled us back together."