Love Better - Relationship Tips
Wondering how to keep your love alive? Or why you're so attracted to jerks? A few wise and witty experts tackle some of our toughest relationship questions.
O, The Oprah Magazine | From the November 2013 issue of O, The Oprah Magazine
Try looking at your spouse with the eyes of a new lover. We can forget that our romantic partner is always changing, just like we are, and we develop fixed ideas about who he is. But when we label a person—even if it's something positive, like "my rock"—we're solidifying him.
Drop your story about who your partner is and see him with a "fresh-start mind." Decide that today you're going to learn three new things about him, or you're going to really listen when you have dinner together. As someone once told me, if you're dancing with someone and aren't paying close attention to the way he's moving, you step all over each other. And then you don't want to dance anymore.
Lodro Rinzler is executive director of the Institute for Compassionate Leadership and the author of Walk Like a Buddha.