"I'm a lot more sophisticated in my porn tastes," she says. "I know exactly what I want. I know exactly what I want to see, and I know exactly where to find it now."
When Violet sits down to watch porn for personal pleasure, she says she has a checklist of criteria. "If I don't want to pay for them, I can go online to one of the free tube sites that are basically like YouTube for porn, and I can select by genre. I can click on something [and then] click away if I don't like it," she says. "It's a much more targeted experience for someone like me."
Once you find what you like, Violet says it can benefit you and your sexual partner. "I think every woman desires to be that projected fantasy of the porn star for their lover," she says. "They like the idea of being the most desired, most satisfied woman on the planet—a woman who's getting what she wants. And they want to share those experiences with their partner."
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