When was the last time you asked your partner, "Are you happy with our sex life?" or "How can I please you more?" or "Have you noticed that our sex life seems to have dwindled lately?"
Take some time this week to have a conversation about sex—outside of the bedroom and when you're not in the middle of getting busy! Focus on making it a productive discussion and not
a performance review. Keep it even-keeled, non-defensive, comfortable and honest. Be open to feedback (positive and otherwise), and remember the goal is to reach a place of mutual pleasure.
If you need some more tips on how to talk about sex with your partner, try these conversation starters
, excerpted from Dr. Berman's The Book of Love
.See all of Dr. Berman's sex homework assignments