Do you have a difficult time admitting you were wrong? Why? Rabbi Shmuley says that it's hard for people to say they're sorry. "We're not strong enough to say we are sorry these days—the insecure people can't," he says.
Although some believe that saying sorry is an admission of guilt, frailty and imperfection, only people who really believe in themselves can say they're sorry, Rabbi Shmuley says. Others think that apologizing is an act of surrender, will change the dynamic of the relationship, means that you will have to do the "heavy lifting" in the relationship or will open yourself up to the possibility of further attack. Some would rather be right than be in a relationship.
However, Rabbi Shmuley offers these tips on how to learn to say you're sorry:
"Immature people always want to win an argument, even at the cost of a relationship. Mature people understand that it's always better to lose an argument and win a relationship."
Published on July 14, 2008