Internet dating is becoming increasingly popular as more and more people head into cyberspace looking for love. Despite its popularity, Rabbi Shmuley says online dating is not an effective way for most individuals to meet and ultimately marry their mate. He talks about the downside of dating online and why it should never replace face-to-face human interaction.
According to Rabbi Shmuley, online dating gives people too many choices. This leads to never-ending comparisons, as individuals seek to meet more and "better" matches without ever really getting to know any one person in depth. "When it comes to certain things, you're not supposed to have limitless choice because that leads to limitless deliberation," he says.
Dating online is also detached and impersonal, Rabbi Shmuley says. You reduce falling in love to an act of the mind instead of the heart by evaluating someone's picture, profile and personality "on paper," he says. "Because the all-important third dimension of personality can never be captured on a computer screen, you can't fall in love," he says.
"The Internet, like most things in life, is neither good nor bad—it is neutral. It is a powerful piece of technology that can either bring people closer together or can impede their interaction. Internet dating must be used, therefore, as a supplement to human interaction and not as a replacement for it."