The number one complaint wives have about their husbands is that they don't communicate enough, Rabbi Shmuley says. Rabbi Shmuley says some reasons your husband might not talk with you are that he doesn't have high self-esteem or he thinks talking is a waste of time and you won't understand what he has to stay. Or, perhaps he just wants to be left alone after a long day of work.
Rabbi Shmuley offers these suggestions to help your husband open up to you.
"You can persuade your man to talk. Don't give up. Talk gently. Ask him how he feels about something. And when he gives you his monosyllabic grunt, pepper him with more questions. Sometimes, you may have to wait 10 minutes until you get a response, but don't interrupt the awkward silence by continuing the conversation on your side because when he finally says something, you'll be able to keep the conversation going. The important thing is not to be a nag. That's just going to make him retreat further into himself. Don't complain that you're pulling teeth. Just keep the conversation going as if it's the most natural thing in the world to wait 10 minutes for a man to respond. Little by little, you'll wake him up. It will happen."
Published on August 25, 2008