If a woman wants to have a vaginal orgasm, Dr. Berman says she needs to find her G-spot. "If a woman's lying on her back, inserts two fingers into the vagina on the belly button side [about two-thirds of the way in] and kind of moves her fingers ... she'll feel the G-spot," she says. The tissue of the G-spot feels different than the rest of the vagina. "Some women say it feels almost like the tip of their nose."
While you're doing this experiment, don't be surprised if you feel like you have to go the bathroom. "When you're stimulating the G-spot, you'll have the sensation that you have to urinate because of the G-spot's proximity to the urethra. ... That's a sign you're in the right place."
Dr. Berman says you have to identify your own G-spot before anyone else can. "You've got to find it yourself first," she says. "Or else he may never be able to find it."