The first step toward being comfortable with the female anatomy is using the correct terminology, Dr. Berman says. "Va-jay-jay's very cute. However, I encourage people to use the real terms," she says. "A lot of people use 'va-jay-jay' because they're too uncomfortable to actually say 'vulva' or 'clitoris' or 'vagina.'" Dr. Berman also says you should teach your children the correct anatomical names. "That's the earliest sex education for them," she says.