This is where your values come in. Listen to your child's music and talk about the messages you hear. What posters hang on your teen's walls? Are they heroes whose values you agree with? If not, talk to your teen and find out why negative messages are resonating with him or her. Explain your views, and listen to what your child has to say. It may tell you a lot about the pressures and social dynamics your teen is facing every day. 

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