Jancee Dunn Polls the Experts Q: How do you take the keys away from an elderly relative who is resolutely independent and insists on driving?
A: "Sometimes the superelderly just need to know that their needs will be cared for. Explain to Pop-Pop or Nana why driving is dangerous, and reassure them that you or someone else will be there to help with grocery shopping, medical appointments—and trips to the casinos."
— Anita L. Allen, professor at the University of Pennsylvania Law School
"My 75-year-old mother gave me the best advice I've ever heard: She said to realize that the older person has been driving longer than anyone attempting to take their keys, so being told to stop would be received more favorably from a trusted professional third party rather than from their child."
— Rudy Rasmus, pastor of St. John's United Methodist Church in Houston
"Do it as nicely, gently, and reasonably as possible. But do it no matter what."
— Jack Marshall, president of ProEthics