How to Deal with Bullies

Dealing with Bullies

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If your son or daughter admits that they are being bullied, Rachel Simmons says you should:

Never tell them it's a "normal phase."
Avoid minimizing their problem.
Never tell them they are being oversensitive.
Never tell them that they are doing something to cause the bullying.
Never tell them that they must be joking.

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Published on July 24, 2008

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