I spent 20 years divorced, and Valentine's Day usually meant another evening with a book. No champagne, no roses and no candy. Certainly no romance. One day, I was driving home from work and envying all the women who got roses at work. I was feeling low. I wanted a bouquet of something—as I drove down the street, I saw a barbecue drive-through. Then it hit me. I could get a bouquet of RIBS! I bought them, and my female dog and I were the two happiest women in West Houston that night! We ate them sitting on the floor. No one, and I mean no one, had more fun than the two of us!
Since then, I've found the love of my life, but I'm convinced that one reason is that I've always tried to make joy. I always sent little old ladies valentines or flowers. I even had champagne and chocolates "teas" on Valentine's Day just for my female friends. And sure enough, what went around came around, and now I have a man who is the best. Love yourself enough to send love to the forgotten and love from the right man will ultimately find you.
— Dixie of Houston, Texas
I believe in my heart when two people come together and raise a family, each day is a Valentine's Day, though each one may not be filled with romance. Before having children and grandchildren, Valentine's Day was a card between my husband and I and maybe a few chocolates if I gave huge hints. After children, Valentine's Day became more about making the day special for the kids, buying stuffed animals, chocolates and, of course, that cute little "I love you" card.
Thirty-three years later, Valentine's Day is going to be about two "empty nesters" trying to discover the romance that was put on a holding pattern. It shouldn't be hard to find—the love, loyalty and dedication to each other has always remained.
— Leanne of Minot, North Dakota
My boyfriend and I have each gone through divorces that were tough on us. We each survived through humor. We are each on a budget as a result of various factors including the economy, each running our own businesses and raising our children (five between us) as newly single parents.
I thought about what I could do that was romantic, from the heart, but didn't blow the budget, and I decided to write him a (somewhat humorous) song and present it on Valentine's Day. I will also attempt to barbecue him a meal since he is teaching me to barbecue. Throw in a candle, and we have a date! He is very special, so I hope he likes it. I am a little nervous, especially since he is the musical one!
— Lisa of North Vancouver, Canada
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