We've all read the same old relationship advice again and again: Set aside a date night! Don't forget to have sex! But even though said advice may be sound, wise and exquisitely written (just throwing it out there), it might not net you a Get Happiness Free card. None of it works if you're just going through the motions. Don't get a babysitter and go out to dinner just because someone told you to if you know you're going to be exhausted and cranky and spend the whole night squabbling over household finances or something else boring—think about what particular things you and your partner are actually into. Maybe a monster-truck rally with the whole family is going to do you more good than a sleepy grownup dinner. Be yourselves, your idiosyncratic, unique, you-full selves, and adjust all relationship advice (including this) accordingly.
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