Mistake #2: Having Your Heart-to-Hearts on the Side
You know who really understands what you're going through? Your best girlfriend, who happens to also be a much-decorated First Date Veteran, or else is also married to a workaholic, or is in whatever relevant way your romance doppelganger. She is the only one who will be endlessly interested in your love-life minutiae, the one who is always on your side. Not like that confounded husband/partner/love interest of yours! But here's the thing: Once you've hashed out all the details with her, you've still got your problem, which was never really with her but with him, who was, of course, not invited to girls' night. Use the girlfriend chat as your dress rehearsal, if you must, but save the real heart-to-hearts for your partner. You know, the romantic one.