Rabbi Shmuley Boteach
Do you get along with your spouse's parents? It can sometimes be hard to establish a good relationship when you marry into another family. Rabbi Shmuley discusses how to get along with your in-laws.
  • Always show respect to your in-laws. They are your spouse's parents, so disrespecting them is like disrespecting your spouse, Rabbi Shmuley says.
  • Honor your in-laws, even if you don't feel affectionate toward them. "Sometimes you love your in-laws and it really works out, and sometimes you don't bond as much, and that's okay as long as you always honor them," he says. "You can't always control your emotions, but you can control your actions."
  • Never accuse your spouse of being just like his parents. "It's a low blow and invites the same accusation in reverse," Rabbi Shmuley says.
  • If you have issues with your in-laws, go and talk to them. Never lose control in their presence.
  • Teach your kids to honor their grandparents. Your in-laws will always appreciate it, and it will endear you to them.
  • For in-laws—give your married children space. Don't try to control them. "Don't try and tether them to the family," he says. "By all means, make them a part of the family, but don't force it."

Today's Shmuleyism
"Your in-laws are your spouse's parents. You must therefore always honor them, even if you don't feel affection toward them. While you can't always control your emotions, you can always control your actions."
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