What's the Magic Formula for Raising a Happy, Successful Kid?
People are so hungry to know how to let their kids flower. But your child's "self" isn't in hiding, waiting for you to flush it out. It's constantly evolving, and your job is just to pay attention.
Every child has at least one "superpower." If that superpower is math, we're thrilled. But parents will say, "All my daughter wants to do is talk to her friends about their problems. What can I do?" You don't do anything. She might grow up to be a psychologist. My son played softball with a kid who would always wander off the field to find plants, and now he's the head of botany at a major university.
It's hard to let your child grow when you've stopped growing. Don't mold her into the adult you'd like her to be. Work on being that adult yourself.
Psychologist Madeline Levine, PhD, is the author of Teach Your Children Well.