When you fall in love for the first time, your heart races, your pulse quickens and you feel more alive than ever before. The danger of first loves, however, is that many people get stuck harnessing those feelings, believing that all future relationships could never be as special. Rabbi Shmuley discusses the importance of moving past those feelings and focusing on your current relationships.
Holding on to feelings from your first love is a big mistake, Rabbi Shmuley says, because when you compare all subsequent relationships to your first love, you're bound to feel disappointed in future relationships. "It's better to remain focused on the relationship you're in and do your best to make it work," he says.
"The beauty of first love is that for the first time you discover just how alive you can feel and how colorful life can be. But you can recapture that first love experience by becoming a 'mental virgin,' wiping away the ghosts of lovers past and immersing yourself in your current relationship completely and fully."
Printed from Oprah.com on Thursday, December 12, 2013