Helen Fisher - The Builder
Photo: Michael Edwards; illustration: Joe McKendry

You know the type: Typically conventional, these women and men are honorable and loyal; cautious without being afraid; calm; social; popular; and good at managing people, networking, and building family and community. Drawn to schedules and rules, they are also detail oriented, thorough, conscientious, and dependable.

Famous examples: George Washington, Colin Powell, Tiger Woods, Jennifer Aniston, Queen Elizabeth.

Under the influence: The defining neurochemical in Builders is serotonin, which modulates moods like aggression, anger, and calm.

Longs for: A helpmate.

Bonds well with: Other Builders.

If you are a Builder: Don't let your taste for plans and schedules get in the way of trying new things on a date???unless you are going out with another Builder. Brag a little (Builders can be too modest) and, despite your love of socializing with the gang, take some time to be alone with your romantic interest. Your tendency to be protective will be appreciated, but make sure you don't appear controlling.

If you're dating one: Remember that Builders like to be concrete and to revel in the details. They're attracted to others who are orderly and calm, so when you make plans, stick to them. According to my research, Builders are the most likely to seek a lifelong partner.


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