Chris says he sees himself in Eddie, and applauds him for coming to the show and admitting his faults. "You know there's a problem," Chris says to Eddie. "And if you love her, you'll change. When the heart speaks, you have no choice but to listen. And if your heart is truly for her, you cannot resist. When you see that you have a problem, if you really want your marriage to last and you want your family to work, just accept it and move through it."
Kim says she doesn't believe that Eddie will change, and that she wants him to take her seriously.
"At certain times…I believed that [my wife] would leave me, but the more she said she would and didn't, it didn't become real until she did," Chris tells Kim. "If you want him to take you seriously, you have to take yourself seriously first. And then he will."
Dr. Weitzman says constant emotional abuse can cause a woman to begin questioning her own feelings.
"A lot of the men will say, 'Oh, toughen up. Get a thicker skin. You're being too sensitive,'" Dr. Weitzman says. "And again they'll turn it on the woman and she'll say, 'Maybe, am I being too sensitive? Maybe it is my fault.' And that is part of the erosion of her self-esteem…. In other words, now she's doubting her own reality. Her own perceptions are up for grabs and she starts using him as her reality check.
"What's interesting is that the biggest predictor of what [type of] man will change is if there are consequences," Dr. Weitzman says. "If you don't give him any consequences, you really—not to blame you—you're helping to perpetuate it."
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