I have an issue that I've never found an answer to. I sought professional help, and came to no conclusion. My fiance and I have a very loving relationship. He is a very affectionate, loving and carng man and I know that he is The One. But, I have one issue that eats away at me. He can't kiss me passionately. It's not that he doesn't want to or enjoy it, it's that he can't physically take it. He can't stand the wetness on his lips (although that issue never arises during oral sex). I've tried everything in my power to help him and support him and still have come up with nothing. He says it's not me and that he can't explain why he is the way he is. I need help. I'm tired of being turned down and feeling less of a woman. Help!
So your lover isn't into kissing, in fact turned off by it. That's usually due to some earlier trauma or really negative messages about germs or dirt. Also, it may be some sensory issue he has. Is he strange about certain fabrics or feelings of other things on his skin? I would suggest that you encourage him to talk to a therapist and really try to get to the bottom of what's going on for him. It would be one thing if kissing was no biggie for you. But clearly it is, so it will ultimately be up to you if this is a deal breaker or not. Let's hope he makes some progress in therapy and gets over this phobia!
Published on November 04, 2008
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