One of the most common fantasies when it comes to women and sex is to be dominated by a desirable man. "They throw caution to the wind, and they're going to take a chance that you're going to be okay with it," she says. "They don't have to ask you if it's okay."

This fantasy only holds if you're attracted to the man who is dominating you, Dr. Meana says. It's not about coercion or violence. "When women talk about domination, what they're trying to communicate is 'I was so wanted by someone I wanted,'" she says.