Patti tells Jennifer that she needs to stop walking around with blame. "That's what I do. Self-condemnation, it's all over my face," Jennifer says. Instead of blaming herself, Patti wants her to look deeper. "The kind of men that you've chosen is your problem," Patti says. "Why you choose them is even your bigger problem."
After she meets a man, Patti doesn't want Jennifer to feel the need to stay in a relationship if he's wrong for her. "And loyalty, I love that word, by the way," Patti says. "I'm a very loyal woman, in my opinion. But that [can be] a misguided excuse for staying with someone who's mistreating you. They don't deserve your loyalty."