Couples Therapy - The Most Useful Communication Technique

The Most Useful Communication Technique of All Time

By Darby Saxbe
O, The Oprah Magazine | From the March 2009 issue of O, The Oprah Magazine

Pin It

Comments

Darby Saxbe uncovers the single most important thing couples can say to each other.

More Top Stories

She made big plans; her boyfriend made excuses. She pushed; he pulled away. But when Darby Saxbe trained to become a couples therapist, she learned to put down her weapons, lean in, and collaborate on a winning cease-fire.

Relationship Tune-Ups

David Burns, MD, has developed a method called cognitive interpersonal therapy that uses specific tools for trouble spots. Here are three to try.

How to Live Happily "Every Other Day" After

Karen Salmansohn talks about how to be happy in your relationship for the long haul.

Looking For Dr. Listen-Good

Finding the right kind of mental therapy for you.

How to Overcome Your Feelings of Hopelessness

Robert Leahy offers five ways to help eliminate the feeling of hopelessness in your life.

IN THE CURRENT ISSUE

Express yourself! We've got 26 ways to tell your story and share it with the world, jeans that make you look 10 pounds thinner, and recipes for the easiest dinner party you'll ever throw.

see all new stories

Thought for Today Newsletter

Want more spiritual insight more often? Sign up for life-changing advice delivered to your in-box!

View All Newsletters

O Mag Yourself!

It's your turn to be on the cover of O Magazine. Just upload a photo, add headlines—then share it with friends!

Create your personalized cover now

GREAT BUYS OF THE WEEK

Style expert and O's creative director Adam Glassman finds the best bargains in stores right now.

See this week's deals

O Magazine search

We Hear You!

E-mail the Editors