6 Cures For The Tongue-Tied

Cocktail parties invariably lead to awkward encounters with strangers, but you don't have to talk about the weather. Here's how to get almost anyone to open up.

By Amy Shearn

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The (Hidden) Common Link

If you are at the same event with somebody, chances are you have at least one thing in common—maybe it's the bride, maybe it's the fundraiser's hostess. Rather than asking the timeworn "So how do you know Blahbedeblah?" get more specific about what you—and your new conversation mate—likely admire in that person. As in "Doesn't Blahbedeblah always have the most fabulous hats/parties/ideas/snacks?" (Dear old Blahbedeblah, always a connector.)

Published on December 05, 2012

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