Communication and Desire

Open, honest communication is the most important foundation for a relationship.

You cannot underestimate the value of humor.

Many people seem to have difficulty expressing their desires for sex in words. We should be able to do better; after all, we don't rub up against the refrigerator to show we are hungry.

Talking about scenes in movies or books can sometimes be a good way to communicate what you like in sex and relationships.

The key to great sex is being able to communicate exactly what you want in a way your partner can hear and feel good about.

Talking during lovemaking makes the experience more intimate.

Nothing builds desire like a long-term friendship slowly becoming sexual.

People have the most sex partners when they are in their 20s.

For most people, sex lasts for 15 to 20 minutes, from kissing to orgasm to sleeping.

The most important sexual organs are the brain and the skin, not the genitals.

You have to know how to pleasure yourself before you can be a good lover to someone else.

Orgasm doesn't have to be the goal of sex. Sometimes the excitement is more than enough.

Men don't just perform oral sex for their partner' pleasure. In one large national study, 90% of men said that they enjoyed performing oral sex.

People are responsible for their own sexual pleasure.