Once you know your parents' wishes, get them on paper. They need: a will; a living will, which clarifies their desires for medical care; and a durable power of attorney so someone they trust can handle their business transactions if they become incapacitated.
You can find a lawyer at the National Academy of Elder Law Attorneys, online at naela.org.
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