When Doris told Jaime she thought they should separate, she says he grabbed a knife from the kitchen, held it to his throat and threatened to kill himself if she left. Doris says Jaime told her, "If you don't love me, if you don't want to have sex with me, I'm just going to kill myself because I can't live without you."
After calming him down and getting him to put the knife away, Doris says he demanded they have sex. "Basically he said, 'Well, if you love me, you'll have sex with me.'" she says. "I told him no. I said, 'We're not going to have sex now. How could you ask me to do that after what you just did?'"
Jaime then became angry, ripped her clothes off and forced himself on her, Doris says. "I cried the whole time and he didn't even care," she says. "After he was done with his act, he came and he told me he was sorry."
Though this was a clear case of spousal rape, Doris did not report it. "In my mind it would have been difficult for people to believe me," she says. "I was thought of as very strong—which I still believe I'm very strong—but I was ashamed. ... I was in complete denial."