So often, parents try to force their children to fit a certain mold. They use criticism, guilt, preaching and policing to shape them into the people they think they should be. While it's important to discipline a child and impart your wisdom and values, Rabbi Shmuley says parents must allow their children to be themselves, which he outlines in the first chapter of his book 10 Conversations You Need To Have With Your Children.
The role of parents, he says, is to inspire their children to discover who they are and to give them a vision for who they should want to become—namely, a good, moral human being. "Effective parenting is when you finally give up what you want your child to be, and you get them to finally hear their own voice of who they want to be," Rabbi Shmuley says. "It's when you finally stop superimposing your vision on them and you allow them to hear their own inner voice of conscience."
You can help your children find their inner compasses by:
"You can never do wrong when you do right."