There's never a great moment to have a tough talk, but you can avoid undue hurt by finding the least terrible time (New Year's Eve is not the night to ask for a divorce), says Linda Sapadin, PhD, author of Now I Get It! Totally Sensational Advice for Living and Loving. The place, too, can make a difference: It should offer relative privacy, the option for a quick exit, and an atmosphere that will allow the other person to feel comfortable and react safely. (Sitting in a well-chosen restaurant can be more conducive to a sensitive conversation than driving in a car, where both of you are stuck after you drop the bomb.)
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