Make a real effort this week to listen to and
be heard by your partner. Be conscious of any defensive posture and be tuned in to the language you use with one another. Are you hearing each other or just waiting for your turn to talk or attack?
Give your partner your wholehearted attention with the intention of understanding. And—once you're feeling comfortable in your understanding—ask for what you need or want in simple, direct language, delivered without fear of rejection. Whether your request has to do with a household task or a bedroom fantasy...ask for what you want.View all the homework assignments.