It's easy to avoid conflict and let children slide on their chores, but Rabbi Shmuley says that can lead to them becoming lazy and irresponsible. If children don't help out with chores when they are younger, it can set the stage for their behavior as an adult, he says. "Children get used to having things done for them," he says. "The result is that children feel entitled and parents are demoted to being a cleaning person." Children need to play a role in the family, and chores are a way of giving children a role in the household, he says. "Kids can—and should—start doing chores from a very young age," Rabbi Shmuley says. He offers suggestions for chores at every age and gives his guidelines for assigning them to your children.
Today's Shmuleyism: "Giving our children responsibilities around the home is crucial to the functioning and happiness of the home. Kids must pitch in and share responsibilities, with consequences if their chores are not done. This teaches kids a sense of teamwork and responsibility, a habit that will only help them grow into a responsible, caring adult."
Printed from Oprah.com on Wednesday, June 19, 2013