Think about the message you're sending your partner when you don't acknowledge his or her wants. How does this make your partner feel? How would it make you feel?
Chris Abani, a contributor for O, The Oprah Magazine, says there are a lot of things that men aren't telling women about their actions. "We are very insecure about how we look and what you really think about us, and we are excited when you do small, nice things for us like make coffee or come with us to the barber or just buy us a good book," he says. "We've been trained never to show this side to you, but it is there."
Step 4: Compromise