Oprah.com: In your book, you talk about how the rules for finding love also apply to the rules for keeping love. What is the most important skill an established couple can practice?
JW: I think there are a lot of things, but you have to keep the relationship alive, fun, interesting and entertaining. I think that is so important. I have been married for 25 years plus, and I still feel like a high school kid. When I am with my husband, I feel like a school girl. We never forget the little things, like leaving each other a note. Don't get too comfortable. You have to keep working at it and have fun working at it. If you really love what you do for a career, you're going to be successful and get up every day and be happy going to work. You have to love what you do to have happiness, and it is the same when you're in a relationship.
SW: Mom often sounds like Confucius: "If you love what you do, you will never work a day in your life."
I am a big fan of Oprah and the work she does. My mom and I are trying to embrace the spirit of change and spreading the message for people to wake up to this shift, this consciousness. I think people in general need to be more aware of what is taking place in their own society, as well as other societies around the world. We need to stop sitting in an environment of fear that things are going to work and start being positive of what is coming and move forward with that.
Steve Ward is the host of the VH1 hit reality show Tough Love and the upcoming spin-offTough Love Couples, which premieres April 12. He is the CEO of Master Matchmakers, an exclusive matchmaking service founded by his mother, JoAnn. He is also the co-author of Crash Course in Love, a how-to guide to getting your love life on track.
JoAnn Ward, a happily married mother of three adult children, is the founder and president of Master Matchmakers, which has been successfully connecting single men and women for more than 20 years. She is a frequent guest star on VH1's Tough Love. She is also the co-author of Crash Course in Love.