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I remember in the months leading up to the year 2000, I made love resolutions for the new millennium. I joked with friends that I wouldn't date anyone who was not Y2K compatible, but I was serious. I wanted to be thoughtful about my love life in the 2000s. I've always believed that consciousness and commitment are key ingredients to change.
As you step into this new decade, I would encourage you to be thoughtful about your dating life and your relationships. To help you get started, here are my top 10 love resolutions for singles for 2010.
Date the Person—Not the Potential
It's wonderful to believe that the object of your desire will come around and treat you the way you want to be treated but remember—you are most likely to find success in love if you are realistic about who is in front of you today.
Pretend Your Dating Life Is a Silent Movie
A man may tell you he really likes you and wants to be with you, but if he is not following up and making you a priority, take the cue that he may not be relationship ready. Listen to a man's words, but put more credence in his actions.
Make Love a Priority
We're all overprogrammed, and finding love or dedicating time to those we love can often fall to the bottom of the to-do list. I've learned that my in-box is always full, so that cannot be my excuse to put love and relationships aside. For many of you, finding love is one of your biggest priorities—so treat it as such.
Consider: What do you have to say no to in order to clear time in your schedule to make dating and connecting with people you love more of a priority?
If you keep doing the same thing in your love life and want to find new results, you have to do—and date—differently. Sometimes this means stepping outside of your comfort zone and trying new activities to meet new people or stretching yourself emotionally.
You cannot have true intimacy without vulnerability. If you keep protecting yourself from getting hurt, you are shutting yourself off from real connection.
Consider that most dating scenarios are designed to fail. If everyone hit it off with every date, there would be no such thing as dating! Sound depressing? It's actually good news. There is no need to put pressure on yourself that each date has to be a home run.
And remember my tagline—even a bad date is a good story!
Be your best self