You can do therapeutic work, or have a large network of people for support, but still not feel forgiven. That sort of forgiveness comes from a place of surrender.

In all wisdom traditions, it was customary to give some kind of offering, or sacrifice, for atonement. You can create your own sacrifice by asking yourself, "What will be my offering?" It could be philanthropy, political activism — something that requires a sacrifice of your time, money or effort. The key is to consciously make that sacrifice in light of your desire for forgiveness. 

• Learn how to use your life to give back to others in our Oprah's Angel Network section.